As a parent, have you ever wondered why some coaches don’t allow parents to assist in the tennis lessons their children take?
Parents can be protective of their kids… If the child gets injured or falls or something doesn’t go their way, the kid looks for comfort and understanding in the arms of their parents.
We, the parents, want to help our children… However, as a tennis coach (and parent), I have witnessed many young players misbehaving on the tennis court. Oftentimes, it is just a simple error that triggers the frustration or meltdown.
Consistently, the children tend to be more “dramatic” when parents are present; the parents’ good intentions ultimately create future setbacks.
Sometimes it is easy to forget that the mistake (or problem) can actually teach our children a whole lot more in the long run. If they miss a shot or lose a point, they tend to seek comfort and understanding from their parents by looking at them. Or, on occasion, pretend that they are sick or perhaps injured…
When parents are not present, kids learn to understand that when problems occur, the only way to deal with them is by handling these problems by themselves!
So what is my point?
Parents, whether in a tennis practice or a match, allow your children to make mistakes and errors… Let them fall and learn how to get back up by themselves! Let them get frustrated and learn that being “down” is their chance to find solutions and overcome problems.
Allow your kids to succeed on their own.