Tips on teaching your own children / students

After watching the latest My Daddy / My Coach live lesson (where I teach my two daughters), one of our sites’ members asked: how come the girls seem to behave so well, with patience and listen to all my instructions?

He wanted to know the “behind-the-scene” tips I tell to my daughters considering that as a parent it is not so easy to teach your own children.

Well, first of all, they see the camera pointing at them and know this should be a serious tennis lesson. 🙂

Besides this, we’ve had many “talks” trying to make them understand the difference of me as a tennis coach and me as a father:

– I try to not talk too much tennis in the house.
When we watch tennis matches, together, on TV, we do that only if they willingly join me; I never tell them to watch tennis with me. 
Teaching by example is best: when I express my passion for tennis, they think it is fun and will want to join me. Only then I point out some of the technical and tactical elements the pros do. 
Tip: Whatever you communicate to them, keep it short: under 15 – 20 seconds. Otherwise their mind wanders off.

– When stepping onto the court with my two daughters (by the way, they are 9 and 8 years old), I expect and tell them to listen to everything I say: when I speak it is an instruction which I demand that they should pay attention to.
Sometimes, after I give them tennis advice (tactical or technical) I ask one of them to repeat what I said. In this way I keep them focused on my instruction and make sure that none of the tips or tricks I tell them are going to be wasted. 
This works great and I encourage every coach to apply it in their tennis lessons.

…I’ll share more of the tips and tricks I apply with my own kids and students in a more ample article – so stay in touch and look out for future newsletters.


Cosmin Miholca